During a recent appearance on The Breakfast Club, soul singer Fantasia Barrino offered advice on why she thinks many modern women are single today.
The 35-year-old married her hubby, Kendall Taylor, in 2011. She recently revealed that she was elated that her partner brought up the idea of a prenup before she did. The two seem to be deeply in love, so Fantasia shared what she thinks the key to their relationship is and spoke openly about why she thinks many women struggle to find love.
Fantasia had lots to say about the current status of marriage and the roles she believes men and women should play in their homes.
She said candidly during an interview Monday (Sept. 16),
“We need more men to stand up and lead the way. Most women are trying to be the leader, that’s why you can’t find a man. You can’t be the king in the house. Fall back and be the queen and let your man lead the way…”
She explained that men and women bump heads because they struggle with power dynamics.
” I feel like it’s a generational thing, and we can talk and we can go real deep on that, I don’t need to start that. But it’s a generational curse in how society has placed our men, and women have to stand up and be the mother and the father and the provider. So now, you’re so bad you can’t be told nothing that when the right man comes, you lose him because you’re trying to be the man.”she said.
Continuing, “At the end of the day I’m the neck, my man’s the head. So he can’t make any moves without his wife. It all works together. But you can’t be the head of the house. You got to let the man be the head of the house. But it’s a generational thing and it’s what we’ve been taught. Stand up, be strong… And a dude comes and everything about you is a man.”
“You have to learn how to submit. You can still be a queen. A king needs his queen. It’s certain things that he can’t see that we see. Anybody play chess? We work together. But the queen has to sit back and allow the king to be the king.”
She said she had to learn to submit herself after sparking a romance with Taylor, especially after taking care of her own family. She mentioned that while he has a criminal past, he’s turned his life around and was able to help her as well. She spoke on their quick dating phase and said she was previously working on herself when she met him, and he checked all the boxes that she had previously asked God for in a man.
She said that they ended up having a secret ceremony at a courthouse and it was his idea to have a prenuptial agreement.